relationship
One entry found for relationship.
Main Entry: re·la·tion·ship
Pronunciation: -sh&n-"ship
Function: noun
1 : the state of being related or interrelated
2 : the relation connecting or binding participants in a relationship: as a : KINSHIP b : a specific instance or type of kinship
3 a : a state of affairs existing between those having relations or dealings b : a romantic or passionate attachment
Defining "Relationship"…
First, what is a "relationship" anyways? A relationship in its basic form is the process of connecting or binding with another. The connection you make with another depends on your needs for a relationship - intellectually stimulating, romantically playful, trusting/confiding, sexually intimate, familial, etc., while the "another" you connect with ranges too - from friends to family to partners to our beloved pets. Relationships are at the very essence of being human. Humans are social creatures that want to belong and feel included - this is what being in a relationship gives us. In fact, according to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, humans do indeed have a basic need for affection and forming relationships.
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Having recently separated (yes, again) I am trying to do it right this time. I don't want to do this again and make the same mistakes, and to do that I need to learn what didn't work, what wouldn't work, and move forward. The biggest thing I'm learning is to let go. Things that have happened have happened. There is nothing I can do to go back and change them, regardless how much I think about them or wish they were different or whatever, so the only thing to do is release. We all learn from what our parents teach us, as I have taught my children, however what they knew and lived wasn't and isn't right, and I hope by making this change I will be able to teach my kids a couple of things not to do. Will it work? Who knows. What I do know is that I'm finally taking care of myself and that is the first thing to do. I'm also learning that we can be 15, 25, 55 or 75 and still make the same choices in relationships that aren't healthy for us, our partners, our families or our friends.
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Self-Validation: Fall in love with yourself and you will always have love. You will never again have to fear being abandoned.
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Love Can Be An Addiction - Interpersonal Heroin
Addictive Relationships
http://www.theviproom.com/visions/addictive.htm
Is It Love or a Love Addiction?
You've been together for awhile, yet you still have that euphoric, queasy, pit-of-the-stomach feeling and you know this is your one and only love, your heart's desire. He or she occupies your every thought and you can't imagine life without this person at your side. You'd do anything for this person and even the thought of him or her with someone else sends you into a frenzy. You feel empty and sick at the thought of not being together. Without your lover, there is no you. This is "True Love!" Or is it? What you may be experiencing is not love, but a love addiction. They're two very different types of relationships… (click above link to read full article)
Relationships - From Addictive to Enlightened (this one is a wee bit off in left field, but it starts out well...) Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever you are addicted to--alcohol, food, legal or illegal drugs, or a person--you are using somebody or something to cover up your pain. That is why, after the initial euphoria has passed, there is so much unhappiness, so much pain in intimate relationships. They do not cause pain and unhappiness. They bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you. Every addiction does that. Every addiction reaches a point where it does not work for you anymore, and then you feel the pain more intensely than ever.
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This brings me to the end of today's blog. Stay safe, know you're loved and remember to smile. Toodles for now.
One entry found for relationship.
Main Entry: re·la·tion·ship
Pronunciation: -sh&n-"ship
Function: noun
1 : the state of being related or interrelated
2 : the relation connecting or binding participants in a relationship: as a : KINSHIP b : a specific instance or type of kinship
3 a : a state of affairs existing between those having relations or dealings
Defining "Relationship"…
First, what is a "relationship" anyways? A relationship in its basic form is the process of connecting or binding with another. The connection you make with another depends on your needs for a relationship - intellectually stimulating, romantically playful, trusting/confiding, sexually intimate, familial, etc., while the "another" you connect with ranges too - from friends to family to partners to our beloved pets. Relationships are at the very essence of being human. Humans are social creatures that want to belong and feel included - this is what being in a relationship gives us. In fact, according to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, humans do indeed have a basic need for affection and forming relationships.
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Having recently separated (yes, again) I am trying to do it right this time. I don't want to do this again and make the same mistakes, and to do that I need to learn what didn't work, what wouldn't work, and move forward. The biggest thing I'm learning is to let go. Things that have happened have happened. There is nothing I can do to go back and change them, regardless how much I think about them or wish they were different or whatever, so the only thing to do is release. We all learn from what our parents teach us, as I have taught my children, however what they knew and lived wasn't and isn't right, and I hope by making this change I will be able to teach my kids a couple of things not to do. Will it work? Who knows. What I do know is that I'm finally taking care of myself and that is the first thing to do. I'm also learning that we can be 15, 25, 55 or 75 and still make the same choices in relationships that aren't healthy for us, our partners, our families or our friends.
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Self-Validation: Fall in love with yourself and you will always have love. You will never again have to fear being abandoned.
------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Love Can Be An Addiction - Interpersonal Heroin
Addictive Relationships
http://www.theviproom.com/visions/addictive.htm
Is It Love or a Love Addiction?
You've been together for awhile, yet you still have that euphoric, queasy, pit-of-the-stomach feeling and you know this is your one and only love, your heart's desire. He or she occupies your every thought and you can't imagine life without this person at your side. You'd do anything for this person and even the thought of him or her with someone else sends you into a frenzy. You feel empty and sick at the thought of not being together. Without your lover, there is no you. This is "True Love!" Or is it? What you may be experiencing is not love, but a love addiction. They're two very different types of relationships… (click above link to read full article)
Relationships - From Addictive to Enlightened (this one is a wee bit off in left field, but it starts out well...) Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever you are addicted to--alcohol, food, legal or illegal drugs, or a person--you are using somebody or something to cover up your pain. That is why, after the initial euphoria has passed, there is so much unhappiness, so much pain in intimate relationships. They do not cause pain and unhappiness. They bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you. Every addiction does that. Every addiction reaches a point where it does not work for you anymore, and then you feel the pain more intensely than ever.
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This brings me to the end of today's blog. Stay safe, know you're loved and remember to smile. Toodles for now.
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