How quickly our lives can change. Every single little choice in our lives brings about some sort of change. It's amazing. When I was a little girl and I handed C that piece of licorice with chocolate sauce on it (you really had to be there) that set me on a certain path. Then when I met D, that set me on another path. What if I had made one different choice? How could my life be different? One time not walking down a certain side of the street, one time doing absolutely anything!
So, we had a monumental thing happen in our family yesterday. Well, at least I think it's a monumental thing and D thinks it's a monumental thing and (did I mention I'm a mere 36 ... still just a baby in many long-living societies?) and wholly shiznit I am just not ready for this!!! What is the something that absolutely no parents think of when they're holding their brand new baby and getting to know him or her - the smell, the touch, all about that precious little life you're cradling? I loved being pregnant by the way - it was the most incredible experience D and I have shared and I'm thankful he's been with me the whole way through everything. However, I do wish we had waited longer and I had gotten my B.Sc.N - and maybe did a bit of traveling. Remember to find someone who will love you through everything that could come your way. That could include some pretty wicked crap, depending on choices YOU make. What about the girl who gets pregnant and ends up losing her life because of complications? What about the guy who gets wrecked with his friends and wakes beside someone whose name he can't remember, then finds out a year later he's HIV positive? Okay, maybe I'm blowing this a little out of proportion, but I'm concerned for our teens. It's my understanding that teens in the 14-16 age group don't consider anything but intercourse to be sex. (Thanks Bill!) So, I just want all you Nexopia Nuts to pay attention to yourselves and respect yourselves and think before you do anything. Okay? Now onto the parents…
Alright - this next part might get me into trouble, but I'm going to say it anyway. Parents - open your freakin' eyes to the realities of life and quit ignoring the things about your kids you don't like or don’t want to deal with or admit or realize or whatever! You know what? Kids learn from the minute they’re born? It is my uneducated opinion that they tend to emulate the people they’re most around. And the comments they make and the things they do and their thoughts and feelings and actions and everything are a direct result of whatever has been happening in their lives - spending time with various people in various places and having different experiences. Are we all in agreement with that? (Like you get a choice? LOL) Kids can also be manipulative and sometimes deceitful – definitely something they learn through the powers of observing someone doing something. So, little Jenny really does have a mouth that needs to be doused in Lysol or little Johnny likes picking on smaller kids or Betty doesn’t share well with other children or LouLou likes cutting her arms or Manny is a meth-head. Face it, whatever is happening is happening. Period. Regardless of the past, you must at least deal with what is in front of you right now. And for us in the this particular family it is teens and all of the things teens start to go through. Everyone knows that I’m an opinionated person and I will typically tell you how I feel or what I think. That comes back to bite you in the arse tenfold when your kids start to get a bit older. Got a bit of a potty mouth? That one will show up too. Have a cramp in your elbow from lifting the bottle too much? That will come back on you. Smoking is a bad thing little Johnny (as her lips purse around her 25th cigarette of the day). Forgot to teach your kids to respect themselves and haven’t allowed them to learn there are consequences in life? Be prepared to be yet another one of those parents with an adult child living at home who can’t survive because he/she hasn’t learned a damn thing. (And yes, you have f*&ked up your kids – welcome to the club!) Get over it, be open, honest and deal with things. There are some things that are acceptable and other things that aren’t. What are they in your house? I know in our house there are some things that we allow or disallow that the kids’ friends’ parents would roll over about – and vice versa. What works in your house? Don’t try to live by someone else’s rules, but at the same time don’t completely remove ALL of the rules and allow the little heathens to take over the house! Alright, I think I’m spent now.
Time to get the kidlets up and head out to do our running around. FYI – the elliptical is going well and I believe I’m into a nice routine. I’ve got to do some measurements, but the pants are fitting a wee bit better and according to my horrendous scale I am down 5 pounds. Incredible!
Take care everyone and do the right thing. Yeah, I know, what the he** is the right thing? Well, keep it legal and sane and kiss your babies before you go to bed tonight.
Toodles for now!
T
So, we had a monumental thing happen in our family yesterday. Well, at least I think it's a monumental thing and D thinks it's a monumental thing and (did I mention I'm a mere 36 ... still just a baby in many long-living societies?) and wholly shiznit I am just not ready for this!!! What is the something that absolutely no parents think of when they're holding their brand new baby and getting to know him or her - the smell, the touch, all about that precious little life you're cradling? I loved being pregnant by the way - it was the most incredible experience D and I have shared and I'm thankful he's been with me the whole way through everything. However, I do wish we had waited longer and I had gotten my B.Sc.N - and maybe did a bit of traveling. Remember to find someone who will love you through everything that could come your way. That could include some pretty wicked crap, depending on choices YOU make. What about the girl who gets pregnant and ends up losing her life because of complications? What about the guy who gets wrecked with his friends and wakes beside someone whose name he can't remember, then finds out a year later he's HIV positive? Okay, maybe I'm blowing this a little out of proportion, but I'm concerned for our teens. It's my understanding that teens in the 14-16 age group don't consider anything but intercourse to be sex. (Thanks Bill!) So, I just want all you Nexopia Nuts to pay attention to yourselves and respect yourselves and think before you do anything. Okay? Now onto the parents…
Alright - this next part might get me into trouble, but I'm going to say it anyway. Parents - open your freakin' eyes to the realities of life and quit ignoring the things about your kids you don't like or don’t want to deal with or admit or realize or whatever! You know what? Kids learn from the minute they’re born? It is my uneducated opinion that they tend to emulate the people they’re most around. And the comments they make and the things they do and their thoughts and feelings and actions and everything are a direct result of whatever has been happening in their lives - spending time with various people in various places and having different experiences. Are we all in agreement with that? (Like you get a choice? LOL) Kids can also be manipulative and sometimes deceitful – definitely something they learn through the powers of observing someone doing something. So, little Jenny really does have a mouth that needs to be doused in Lysol or little Johnny likes picking on smaller kids or Betty doesn’t share well with other children or LouLou likes cutting her arms or Manny is a meth-head. Face it, whatever is happening is happening. Period. Regardless of the past, you must at least deal with what is in front of you right now. And for us in the this particular family it is teens and all of the things teens start to go through. Everyone knows that I’m an opinionated person and I will typically tell you how I feel or what I think. That comes back to bite you in the arse tenfold when your kids start to get a bit older. Got a bit of a potty mouth? That one will show up too. Have a cramp in your elbow from lifting the bottle too much? That will come back on you. Smoking is a bad thing little Johnny (as her lips purse around her 25th cigarette of the day). Forgot to teach your kids to respect themselves and haven’t allowed them to learn there are consequences in life? Be prepared to be yet another one of those parents with an adult child living at home who can’t survive because he/she hasn’t learned a damn thing. (And yes, you have f*&ked up your kids – welcome to the club!) Get over it, be open, honest and deal with things. There are some things that are acceptable and other things that aren’t. What are they in your house? I know in our house there are some things that we allow or disallow that the kids’ friends’ parents would roll over about – and vice versa. What works in your house? Don’t try to live by someone else’s rules, but at the same time don’t completely remove ALL of the rules and allow the little heathens to take over the house! Alright, I think I’m spent now.
Time to get the kidlets up and head out to do our running around. FYI – the elliptical is going well and I believe I’m into a nice routine. I’ve got to do some measurements, but the pants are fitting a wee bit better and according to my horrendous scale I am down 5 pounds. Incredible!
Take care everyone and do the right thing. Yeah, I know, what the he** is the right thing? Well, keep it legal and sane and kiss your babies before you go to bed tonight.
Toodles for now!
T
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