Do you read the paper or do you listen to or watch the news or do you skip everything and live without any desire to know of things happening outside your immediate circle? I typically begin my day with the online Sun (still haven't approached that damn elliptical-as you've heard time and again) and a cup of tea or coffee. Here are a few highlights from this morning:
In my search for links and information, I've run across an article that talks about Military Fitness. Interesting concept but not for me.
Do you ever read Sally Sez? Sally is one of my favourite people! She says the things I want to (or sometimes do) say and she has the most awesome attitude! In case you aren't a "link clicker" (not sure such a term actually exists) here is a bit of what Sally wrote this week...
DINGLE DANGLE
A British TV presenter says she wants a boob job.
Davina McCall, who hosts the U.K. version of Big Brother reckons having two kids has taken its toll on her breasts.
"I remember bending down in the shower and seeing them look like socks with tennis balls in the end," she said.
Which is unquestionably the most creative - and accurate - description I've ever heard.
CAN'T BARE IT
A discount clothing store in my local mall has bikinis on sale for just $5 apiece prominently displayed as though they're right at the top of everyone's shopping list.
Well, I know we're enjoying some balmy temperatures, but I think that's a bit optimistic, don't you?
No matter how great a deal, nothing would induce me to strip off and see my pale, bloated, post-Christmas body reflected in a store's change room mirror.
At this time of year I only get undressed - in the dark - in order to go to bed.
And that big gush of wind you just heard outside is the entire planet breathing a sigh of relief over that fact.
JUST SAY NO
We all do it, way too often. We say "yes" when we really want to say "no" when asked to do something.
A new book offers some sensible tips to help us reclaim our lives.
The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say It and Mean It is a bright and easy read by American psychologist Susan Newman.
It offers up a wide range of common scenarios with appropriate responses that will enable us to gracefully avoid situations that don't appeal.
For example: "Pick us up and we'll drive together."
Response: "No. That's not going to work for us tonight."
Don't lie, don't make excuses and don't apologize for being unavailable, urges Newman.
"The word 'no' is enough. Lengthy explanations leave wiggle room for debate, misinterpretation or permission to ask again," she writes.
I urge everyone to read this book. But, of course, they have every right to say "no."
I just published Friday's post and am already almost finished this one. That's because last night my bathtub was calling me and then Lucy and bed so I thought of adding onto Friday's and publishing, but the damn things just get so big!
Mindelle has a great article today that I find myself in full agreement with. Some of you may disagree with me on this one but if you are honest with yourselves and your kids, and face life rather than trying to pretend you are something you are not, we could help our kids to have better attitudes. Are you so old you can't remember what it felt like to be a teenager? The butterflies you got when the object of your desires finally noticed you or, even better yet, agreed to go out with you? Teenage boys and men have been horny since the beginning of time, and girls have the wish to be loved and accepted and protected and so it has gone forever.
While some of my peers did and others didn't, pre-marital sex occurred for me at 15 and I know it occurred for some cousins and friends around at 13 and 14. As with every family, we had marriages while pregnant, abortions, very pre-mature babies born weighing 8 lbs and babies given up for adoption. When I take a look back in the generations, there is nothing new going on. Back then we had a lot of people who grew up and wanted their kids to be chaste because they didn't have any means with which to protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy. There were many marriages started on the basis of lust in the backseat of a car and an unexpected pregnancy rather than friendship, love, trust, honesty and respect. A few kids later and some of them stayed together while others divorced (not usually before the kids left home), many filled this unhappiness with outside distractions. Now that we have the means to protect our kids should they choose to experiment, instead we're going to choose to go back to abstinence? Not in this house. I preach that the best sex you'll ever have is with yourself, and I hope they practice that! Is society so prudish as to tell them not only to abstain from any pleasure with someone else, but for godsake don't go touching yourself too! Be careful folks! In our house we know KVS has a boyfriend and BDJ has a girlfriend and DBR is contemplating everything about life in general but mostly pretty girls.
We have birth control in our house and so far the kidlets haven't run out and become sluts or anything because of it! I think they respect themselves and know that they can ask whatever questions they want without fear of getting into trouble or being frowned upon, and so we deal with the issues as they arise. Some might think I am too lenient and don't provide them with enough structure and guidance while others think that I am way too controlling and dictate to them too much. In the end, I mostly hear what great kids I have and how respectful they are.
Getting back to the birth control. It's not just about birth control. If my kids are going to do experimenting with anything, I want to help them make the best and most healthy decision they can. I get to hear a lot of different parents' opinions and it is interesting how blind some parents are to what their kids are really doing. "Little Johnny doesn't do anything bad and he's a good boy, so I'll buy him a six-pack to get together with his friends. It doesn't matter that he's underage, it's better than drugs."
Well folks, most of your kids have tried and/or are doing drugs. Open your eyes and face the facts. Talk to your kids about things, make sure they know that if they're going to try something natural is always better than chemical and synthetic - and I hope you all clue in to what I'm saying here. There is no room to experiment with the crap that is out there. One hit of meth and you stand a HUGE chance of getting hooked for life! Make sure they keep their drinks safe! Many of us know of someone who had something dropped in his drink and then he offed himself later. Shit like that still happens and the effects are just as bad! Watch your kids for drug use, talk with them about what they did the night before, speak openly and honestly with other parents about the things you think they're doing. Keeping them safe during this time of experimentation is what we most need to do and we can't do that if we're denying that they're doing anything.
Okay - I think I've filled a freakin book with this one today. Be a good parent, be realistic, be smart and have a great day.
Toodles!
In my search for links and information, I've run across an article that talks about Military Fitness. Interesting concept but not for me.
Do you ever read Sally Sez? Sally is one of my favourite people! She says the things I want to (or sometimes do) say and she has the most awesome attitude! In case you aren't a "link clicker" (not sure such a term actually exists) here is a bit of what Sally wrote this week...
DINGLE DANGLE
A British TV presenter says she wants a boob job.
Davina McCall, who hosts the U.K. version of Big Brother reckons having two kids has taken its toll on her breasts.
"I remember bending down in the shower and seeing them look like socks with tennis balls in the end," she said.
Which is unquestionably the most creative - and accurate - description I've ever heard.
CAN'T BARE IT
A discount clothing store in my local mall has bikinis on sale for just $5 apiece prominently displayed as though they're right at the top of everyone's shopping list.
Well, I know we're enjoying some balmy temperatures, but I think that's a bit optimistic, don't you?
No matter how great a deal, nothing would induce me to strip off and see my pale, bloated, post-Christmas body reflected in a store's change room mirror.
At this time of year I only get undressed - in the dark - in order to go to bed.
And that big gush of wind you just heard outside is the entire planet breathing a sigh of relief over that fact.
JUST SAY NO
We all do it, way too often. We say "yes" when we really want to say "no" when asked to do something.
A new book offers some sensible tips to help us reclaim our lives.
The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say It and Mean It is a bright and easy read by American psychologist Susan Newman.
It offers up a wide range of common scenarios with appropriate responses that will enable us to gracefully avoid situations that don't appeal.
For example: "Pick us up and we'll drive together."
Response: "No. That's not going to work for us tonight."
Don't lie, don't make excuses and don't apologize for being unavailable, urges Newman.
"The word 'no' is enough. Lengthy explanations leave wiggle room for debate, misinterpretation or permission to ask again," she writes.
I urge everyone to read this book. But, of course, they have every right to say "no."
I just published Friday's post and am already almost finished this one. That's because last night my bathtub was calling me and then Lucy and bed so I thought of adding onto Friday's and publishing, but the damn things just get so big!
Mindelle has a great article today that I find myself in full agreement with. Some of you may disagree with me on this one but if you are honest with yourselves and your kids, and face life rather than trying to pretend you are something you are not, we could help our kids to have better attitudes. Are you so old you can't remember what it felt like to be a teenager? The butterflies you got when the object of your desires finally noticed you or, even better yet, agreed to go out with you? Teenage boys and men have been horny since the beginning of time, and girls have the wish to be loved and accepted and protected and so it has gone forever.
While some of my peers did and others didn't, pre-marital sex occurred for me at 15 and I know it occurred for some cousins and friends around at 13 and 14. As with every family, we had marriages while pregnant, abortions, very pre-mature babies born weighing 8 lbs and babies given up for adoption. When I take a look back in the generations, there is nothing new going on. Back then we had a lot of people who grew up and wanted their kids to be chaste because they didn't have any means with which to protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy. There were many marriages started on the basis of lust in the backseat of a car and an unexpected pregnancy rather than friendship, love, trust, honesty and respect. A few kids later and some of them stayed together while others divorced (not usually before the kids left home), many filled this unhappiness with outside distractions. Now that we have the means to protect our kids should they choose to experiment, instead we're going to choose to go back to abstinence? Not in this house. I preach that the best sex you'll ever have is with yourself, and I hope they practice that! Is society so prudish as to tell them not only to abstain from any pleasure with someone else, but for godsake don't go touching yourself too! Be careful folks! In our house we know KVS has a boyfriend and BDJ has a girlfriend and DBR is contemplating everything about life in general but mostly pretty girls.
We have birth control in our house and so far the kidlets haven't run out and become sluts or anything because of it! I think they respect themselves and know that they can ask whatever questions they want without fear of getting into trouble or being frowned upon, and so we deal with the issues as they arise. Some might think I am too lenient and don't provide them with enough structure and guidance while others think that I am way too controlling and dictate to them too much. In the end, I mostly hear what great kids I have and how respectful they are.
Getting back to the birth control. It's not just about birth control. If my kids are going to do experimenting with anything, I want to help them make the best and most healthy decision they can. I get to hear a lot of different parents' opinions and it is interesting how blind some parents are to what their kids are really doing. "Little Johnny doesn't do anything bad and he's a good boy, so I'll buy him a six-pack to get together with his friends. It doesn't matter that he's underage, it's better than drugs."
Well folks, most of your kids have tried and/or are doing drugs. Open your eyes and face the facts. Talk to your kids about things, make sure they know that if they're going to try something natural is always better than chemical and synthetic - and I hope you all clue in to what I'm saying here. There is no room to experiment with the crap that is out there. One hit of meth and you stand a HUGE chance of getting hooked for life! Make sure they keep their drinks safe! Many of us know of someone who had something dropped in his drink and then he offed himself later. Shit like that still happens and the effects are just as bad! Watch your kids for drug use, talk with them about what they did the night before, speak openly and honestly with other parents about the things you think they're doing. Keeping them safe during this time of experimentation is what we most need to do and we can't do that if we're denying that they're doing anything.
Okay - I think I've filled a freakin book with this one today. Be a good parent, be realistic, be smart and have a great day.
Toodles!
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