Making New Year's resolutions is a great idea. Even if we violate them before February, it is good to resolve to improve one's life. It is far better to try and to fail than never to try. Most resolutions deal with dieting, exercise and other forms of self-improvement. These are fine and important. But any married person will tell you that there is no surer way to misery than a troubled marriage, so it is strange and unfortunate that people rarely make New Year's resolutions to improve this part of their life.
The reason is not that husbands and wives don't care to improve their marriage. Most married people would pay a lot of money to do so. The problem is that they don't know how. They think that they have but three choices: go on as at present, seek professional counseling or split up.
But there is a fourth option that can be enacted immediately: Find out what one or two things your husband or wife could do to make you feel loved. The reason that this must be asked and responded to is that most men and women have different answers to this question.
If you Google What Are the Top Ten New Year's Resolutions? you will find a wide assortment of answers. One of the sites had this:
New Year's Eve has always been a time for looking back to the past, and more importantly, forward to the coming year. It's a time to reflect on the changes we want (or need) to make and resolve to follow through on those changes. Did your New Year resolutions make our top ten list?
1) Spend More Time with Family & Friends
2) Fit in Fitness
3) Tame the Bulge
4) Quit Smoking
5) Enjoy Life More
6) Quit Drinking
7) Get Out of Debt
8) Learn Something New
9) Help Others
10) Get Organized
There is more than enough help out there for you for whatever resolutions you want to make. I think the worst part about the New Year is resolutions. I think we need to be making better choices the other 364 days rather than just focusing on one specific day to change absolutely everything that you figure needs changing including the sheets, wallpaper and paint in the bathroom! So, my resolution is to learn each day and hopefully make some better choices than I have in the past. Can you imagine if you changed one thing each week let alone each day? That could yield some pretty amazing results.
Well, it's tub time. Oh, I know - most of you are now nauseous with that flash of horror that just went through your mind. LOL. Suck it up, buttercup!
Toodles!
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